Thursday, June 28, 2007

sooner or later, someone will disappoint you. but not everyone i think, 'cause not everyone matters to the extent that it will really hurt you. it might sound bad, but it's the truth. how much a person can hurt you is how close you are to that person.

sooner or later, you will disappoint someone too. it really is inevitable. and when you do, you'll regret it. but you can't change the past. you can't take it back, no matter how much you wish you could.

and sometimes, it's better that way. sometimes, that hurt makes you stronger, that regret makes you want to be a better person. and sometimes, it makes your relationship stronger. that or it just kills whatever's left of it.

which is bad. bad. bad. and you just have to keep trying to make up for that disappointment. it doesn't help playing the blame game, it'll only make things worse. so either give in, compromise or screw it. it'll be so draining, and you'll want to give up so many times. but if that person is worth all the pain then, fuck you're screwed if that person doesn't feel the same way.

(:

Posted by Min @ 12:40 AM, ,


Sunday, June 24, 2007

Something I got off Azhar's blog. It hits home, and I'm sure it will too with you.

Dr. Alan Zimmerman's Comments:

Sooner or later, everyone you know will disappoint you in some way. They'll say something or fail to say something that will hurt you. And they'll do something or fail to do something that will anger you. It's inevitable.

Unfortunately, you make things worse when you stew over someone's words and deeds. When you dwell on a rude remark or an insensitive action made by another person, you're headed for deeper problems.

In fact, the more you dwell on these things, the more bitter you'll get. You'll find your joy, peace and happiness slipping away. And you'll find your productivity slowing down as you spend more and more time thinking about the slight or telling others about it.

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR FEELINGS. Even though the other person may be at fault, even though the other person wronged you, you are still responsible for your own feelings.

In other words, other people do not "cause" your feelings. You choose them. For example, two different people could be told that their suggestions made at the staff meeting were "stupid and idiotic." One person may "choose" to feel so hurt that he never speaks up at any other meeting again. The other person may "choose" to feel sorry for the critic, sorry that the critic couldn't see the wisdom and necessity of her suggestions.

As long as you blame other people for your feelings, as long as you believe other people caused your feelings, you're stuck. You're a helpless victim.

But if you recognize the fact that you choose your feelings and you are responsible for your feelings, there's hope. You can take some time to think about your feelings. And you can decide what is the best thing to say or do.

Then, you've got to learn to WALK AWAY FROM DISAPPOINTMENT. It's difficult to do, but it's possible.

And what can you do about anything once it is over? Not much. You can try to correct it if it is possible, or you can walk away from it if it isn't. Those are your only two choices.

Sometimes you've just got to shake it off and step up.

Finally, you need to FORGIVE. It's difficult, especially when the other person doesn't deserve your forgiveness or doesn't even seek it. It's difficult when the other person is clearly in the wrong. Part of the difficulty comes from a common misunderstanding of forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn't mean that the other person's behaviour is okay. And forgiveness doesn't mean that the other person is off the hook. He's still responsible for his misbehaviour.

Forgiveness is about letting yourself off the emotional hook. It's about releasing your negative emotions, attitudes, and behaviours. It's about letting go of the past so you can go forward to the future. Everyone in your life, everyone on and off the job is going to disappoint you. If you know how to respond to those situations, you'll be way ahead of most people. You'll be able to live above and beyond your circumstances.

Identify two people that have disappointed, hurt, or angered you. If possible, select two people towards whom you still have some bitterness. Then ask yourself, "How does my bitterness serve me? Am I happier holding on to it? Do I sleep better? Is my life richer, fuller, and better because of my bitterness?"

If you find that your bitterness is hurting you, make a decision. Actually decide to let it go. Walk away from the disappointment - which means you no longer dwell on it or talk about it.

Posted by Min @ 2:39 PM, ,


Saturday, June 09, 2007

Penguin saw a naked girl in the snow. Happy Penguin.


Penguin feeling right at home.

He looks like the KFC Colonel. Stupid MT.

Quek playing soccer.

Posted by Min @ 1:17 PM, ,


I forgot to post these the last time.
Cheahcheah doing the Dunk!


Posted by Min @ 1:12 PM, ,


Thursday, June 07, 2007

Should I do a single degree in 3 years?
A double degree in 3.5 years?
Or A double degree in 4 years?

I'm in a dilemma. I prolly won't be able to handle a double in 3.5 years. I'm not built to study!!!

Sigh.

Where are you?

Posted by Min @ 1:20 AM, ,